The 15 Types of People You Need In Your Life for True Happiness

If you’re asked to make an inner circle of your own, who would be the people that you would include there? Who are those must-have people in your life?

Well, if you can’t figure out the answers immediately, then there’s no reason to panic as most people don’t get it right at the first try.

As social beings, from our childhood, we’re taught how to get along with anyone and basically everyone around us. One of the most common intentions behind sending kids to schools and other social places at an early age is to teach them, what’s considered as one of the most important skills of life – “social skills”

However, as you grow up, you understand that it’s okay to know many people and build connectivity. But you don’t necessarily need every one of them in your life. But when you try to filter out who those must-have people are, it might get confusing or messy.

However, the intention is never wrong .Figuring out who those supportive friends are and building a positive circle can actually be so life saving and benefitting to your mental health.

So in this article, I’ve made a list of 15 must-have people in your life for true happiness. If you’re the type of person who often gets confused about including the right people in your inner circle, then just save this post and look at it whenever you need.

Finally if this is something that makes you interested, have a good read!

YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE :

10 Signs of Real Friends + How to Find One

31 Reasons Why People Don’t Like You (With Solutions)

30 Easy Ways To Make Someone Happy Today

The One Who Offers “Complete Acceptance”

It’s crazy how the same person might be in different roles in different people’s heads.

Some people might know you as the intelligent and calm one. While to some, you might appear as the ultimate angry bird. Some might recognize you as a pure inspiration and a supportive friend while to others, you might be a straight off loser. Someone could consider you the hero of life while some might hate you as the ultimate villains.

And it’s possible for a person to be a bit of a mix of all of this. But who actually knows the real you?

Therefore, you should’ve at least one person in your life who knows about all the sides of yours and accepts it completely. Someone who tries to understand the cause behind your actions rather than choosing you to call the bad person immediately. A true friendship only builds when someone doesn’t stop trying to see the good in you while understanding the setbacks properly.

The Person that You Can Just Be Around

I’m talking about the non-judgemental friend with whom you don’t have to care about wearing the ‘right’ dress or maintaining a certain dress code, or about wearing good makeup or acting or talking in a certain way.

Very often, when we hang out with our friends, we worry a lot about doing the ‘vibe match’ . But the truth is, not everybody really contains the energy of showing up as an interesting and humorous friend every single day. So on those days, we’ve to put in extra effort.

But you should’ve at least one person in your life that you can call at your home when you’re at your most unstable estate. Someone who might as well give an advice or two about disorganization but never ever will judge you in a harsh way.

These are also the people around whom silence doesn’t feel awkward. As if their existence and them sitting beside you silently is so comforting itself.

The “Difficult Advice” Giver

Having people who support your delusions is fun indeed. These are the people who give you hope about an unpredictable situation when you’ve almost lost it. Or becomes your crime partner sometimes and actually offers you a lot of laughter in life.

But then you need at least one person in your life who gives you the reality check, pulls you down to reality when you’re too much high up, busy thinking about something that mightn’t actually happen. These people are not slanderers, and they’re also not the ones who try to diminish your excitement or go against your dreams. Just a brutally honest friend.

So don’t forget to include at least one person like this while building your own positive circle who reminds you that “IT IS WHAT IT IS”

Also Read: 11 Ways To Bring Mindfulness In Stressful Situations

The One Who Inspires

Having someone who inspires you truly is so much more than just having someone who tells you kind words every now and then. Anyone can do that nowadays and not even mean it.

Instead, have someone :

1. Who truly believes in you, in your purpose behind doing the work and the validity of it no matter how unrealistic it might seem to most people.
2. Who cares enough to give you sophisticated guidelines from their experiences of life even if the paths they’ve persuaded have been different.
3. Someone who’s an inspiring person themselves. Not someone who earns a lot of money but has the dedication and passion in life. Cause let’s be honest, you can’t be serious enough about a couch potato’s advice.

The One Who is Wants to Know “YOUR STORY”

Sadly there are people who make it all about themselves. They’ll tell you their stories, their life experiences, their struggles, their achievements but hardly will want to know about yours.

It’s not that they’re self-centered. But these people just don’t care enough to know about the experiences that have shaped you and made you the person you’re today. They’ve more to do with your present version. Now it’s definitely not wrong.

But at the end of the day, focus on having at least one person who’s not only a good conversationalist, but also an avid listener and a proper one. Someone who asks questions that you’ve not asked yourself in a long time. Who suddenly makes you remember about your roots and reminds you how strong you’re when you’ve almost forgotten it.

Getting someone like that is daunting, but managing to get someone like that by side is indeed the most self-nourishing feeling on earth.

“Let’s take a walk. You can show me some of your memories and I’ll show you some of mine.” – Adam Berlin

Appreciates Your Efforts

According to Better Help, Feeling unappreciated means that your self-esteem and emotions could be affected, potentially causing you to feel bad and creating conflict in your relationship

When someone doesn’t appreciate your efforts, just know that you’re no longer a companion to them. But rather a doormat that was supposed to be there to be walked over. And you don’t really pick up a doormat every now and then and tell it “You make me happy.” Because it just does what it was supposed to do – bear other’s foot trash.

In the same way, many people will act in a way as if you’re supposed to play a certain role in their lives. They not only make you feel unappreciated, but also easily replaceable. So instead, have people in your life who make you feel seen and heard. People who make you know that you’re not just someone they want or can have easily. But rather a true cruciality in their lives.

Gives You Genuine Complements

Having people in life who give you compliments every now and then might feel great. But here’s the side effect : when they get too much used to giving such sudden compliments, they might not even be intentional about it half of the time. I mean, someone just can say a phrase out of habit but forget the next minute that they actually said it.

And you’ll know when a compliment is genuine or is just coming out of habit. And too much of this can actually make you feel unworthy or nonchalant to the real ones.

So instead, focus on having people –

• Who give you compliments not to just give a compliment but to make you feel known about your beauty and value in their eyes.
• Care enough to leave small notes every now and then.
• Give you a detailed compliment once in a while rather than just a small text such as “you’re pretty” in case you you prefer texting.

It’ll not only make your life more soothing. But will actually work as a huge boost to your self esteem and mental health.

The Secret Keeper

It’s a piece of cake to tell someone your secrets just based on the sparkling in their eyes when they told you “I promise to take it to the grave” until you hear someone else talking about the things that no one was supposed to know. Some of those people don’t even know that it was “YOUR SECRET” . So ridiculously one day someone comes up to you – “hey, they were saying this about you” and your hands become cold as you realize that the person you trusted with your own heart wasn’t actually the trustworthy one.

So here are some ways to find out who the fake secret keepers are :

Someone who is so much interested in knowing the juicy gossips :

There are people that I know who have to know every single thing about other people’s lives. The dramas and gossip make them feel so lively that they just can’t live without it. But to get some gossip and secrets, you need to give them some gossip first. And nobody really knows if the next secret they’re going to spill is going to be yours.

Someone who tells you other’s secrets :

I cannot even emphasize how scarily normalized this thing has become – “sharing other’s intimate secrets with their best friends“. 

See, it goes beyond just friendships. It’s more about a person’s loyalty and ethics. Suppose this person makes another best friend someday and you don’t get to know about this. Now they’re going to share your secrets with them too. Just think how scary it actually is!

So instead of these fake secret keepers, choose someone who is emotionally secure and has more things to talk about in life other than other’s personal lives.

ALSO READ : 10 Habits of Fake and Manipulative People

The Ones Who Respect Your Boundaries

Even though our closest ones are often supposed to share the details of their lives. But still there are certain things that a person might not feel comfortable talking about even in their most bosom friendships or relationships. It’s not that they’re gatekeeping and there’s actually nothing to take personally. It’s just called boundaries.

Some examples of this are :

• Wanting to not talk about some family issues that they might be facing
• Not wanting to talk about beliefs that they’ve grown up with in case they might be different than yours
• Not wanting to talk about a person who did them wrong
• Wanting to not talk about some incidents that affected them but they left it in the past.
• Not talking in a certain way in public. E.G: roasting or using bad words casually which is very common in friendships nowadays.

Make sure to have people in your life who understand the term- boundaries and respects yours properly.

According to Better Up, Boundaries in relationships are essential for maintaining mutual respect, personal space, and emotional well-being.

The Ones that Respect You Even When You’re Not Around

I’ve seen tons of friend groups so far who act as if they’ve the strongest bonds. Some even like to do things in the same kind of way like going to the same teachers or buying the same kind of cloths. Making it so even that they’re going to stick together no matter what. But you’ll be surprised to see how they talk about their “best friends” as soon as someone leaves the room.

Some of these even talk in a way that’ll make you think that the people they pretend to like the most might be actually the ones that they hate the most. To me, it not only symbolizes a person who talks behind your back, but an enemy in disguise.

Instead, focus on having people in your life –

• Who don’t talk badly about you in your absence
• Defend you when others try to do it and even if those people doing it are the parts of the friend group.
• Or even if they can’t stop it, at least carry the guts to walk away from such conversations.

Finding these types of people can be daunting. But if you can do this, I promise you, your circle will feel more genuine and positive than ever.

The Ones Who’re “Full Time”

Please understand that “full time” DOES NOT mean someone who accompanies you all the time. Nowadays, possessiveness in friendships have become so common that I don’t know if it’s even right to talk about it. But what’s disturbing about it is the intensity. You might be a very emotional person who needs to be re-assured constantly. But it doesn’t mean that the other person isn’t allowed to have other friends or healthy relationships in their lives.

“Full Time” means someone –

1. Isn’t Around You Only When They Need You :

Being a giver is good. But having an opportunist or a fair-weather friend in life is straight off embarrassing. But somehow we always manage to give in to them. There’s no doubt that you’re doing it out of sheer love hoping that someday they would change, while they’re probably busy planning their next “fake kind words”that they’re going to say to get something out of you. They’re not only not the “full time” people you wish to have but also someone that you should remove from your life as soon as possible.

2. Doesn’t Avoid You In Public :

I had a friend like this back in high school who would talk to me a lot in private. But in school, she would ignore me as the people she normally hung out with didn’t favor me that much. Also she would go beyond her way to keep a good relationship with people that she knew, used to talk shit about me.

She would me her best friend in private. But someone who takes the ‘best friend’ tag seriously wouldn’t do that. So I stopped keeping the closure with her though I didn’t cut her off completely. I kept the formality but backed off silently as soon as I realized she was never the “full time”friend.

3. Doesn’t Leave You In Your Bad Times :

It’s true that not everyone knows how to show empathy or comfort the other person with kind words. But offering a shoulder to cry on and just letting you know they’re not going to leave your side no matter what is only what a “full time” person can do.

Choose someone who chooses you, not once, twice, but for as many times – openly and proudly.

The One With The Same Passion

You need at least one person in your life who has the same passion as you. Now the thing is, it’s actually so effortless to find someone nowadays who has the same dream as you, such as getting a certain degree or being in a certain profession.

But by someone with the same passion, I don’t mean anybody who has got the same goal which lacks intrinsic motivation. In case you don’t know what a goal lacking intrinsic motivation is, it’s when someone is trying to fulfill a goal just for what she can get out of it and not actually enjoying it.

Or, if you ask a person “Why are you doing this?” and they say something like, “I just wanna earn a lot of money”, then you know that this person isn’t the passionate one that we were talking about. So, instead, try to have at least one person in life who at least has a clear “why” which persuades her to have a clear “how”.

Someone who’s as excited about the topic as you’re and has almost the same reaching point in mind. So every time you start to lose motivation, you’ll have someone beside you to remind you why you’ve started in the first place.

Introduces You to The New Perspectives

In order to live a fulfilled and purposeful life, you’ll need to broaden your perspectives and views at some point.

Not many people in this world really prefer getting out of the shell. The shell that consists of the same beliefs and thoughts that one has grown up with. To make it more comfy, they initially make a circle of people who think in the same way or are willing to think in the same way for the rest of their lives.

Now, it’s not really wrong to look for like minded people. But soon you’ll realize how far you’ve been from understanding true human relationships. You might as well face problematic situations in your personal or professional life where you might be required to do something by getting out of your beliefs. 

While others get the thing done easily, you’ll buckle up and just think of “now they’re trying to test ego”. But is it really your ego or morals that you’re thinking about or your inability to accept other people’s thoughts or perhaps respect it.

Therefore, you need at least one person in your life who can make you open to the bigger picture. There’s in fact a huge difference between reinforcing our views on someone and treating them like a bad kid when they don’t obey and treating someone like a bosom friend and paying respect to their thoughts. You need at least one person in your life to show you that

“Every coin has two sides and just because one side is right doesn’t mean that the other always has to be wrong”.

Someone that Reminds You That You’re Enough

According to ADDA, “It is possible to have self-confidence and, at the same time, have low self-esteem.”

Even if you’re the more self-assured person in the world, it’s completely normal to feel that self-doubt at times. There are moments when you might feel that you’re just not doing enough or you lack something valuable to reach your goal.

In these moments, having a person who reminds you of your true goal and your true potential is extremely crucial. These relationships not only work as a key relationship for success, but also gives you a life coach-type person.

Even the most basic reminders at these times can play a huge role in re-arranging your messy mind. But if I had to listen to a comment, I would definitely give more priority to the ones who actually know about my journey properly.

So, in your list of must-have people, include someone who’s genuinely interested and acknowledges your journey and has a kind and wise mind to just remind you of the truth that “YOU ARE ENOUGH”

Is a ‘Good Person’ in General :

By a ‘good person’, I mean someone who stays kind to random strangers or the amoral animals on the streets. If a person only does random acts of kindness when he/she has a good relationship or friendship with that person, then he isn’t necessarily a good person.

It might feel good, in fact incredible when you’ve made a friendship with that quiet and unkind person and now they take your stand in every conversation or try to protect you or make you feel good. But there’s no guarantee that this person isn’t gonna get back at you if the bond isn’t the same anymore. As they’ve past records of unkindness and being nonchalant to other people’s pains, you don’t really know if this person turns out to be revengeful in future.

Remember, nobody is permanent in life. So you should always be close with someone who actually carries that emotional maturity to act gently even when you’ve grown apart or simply fallen apart.

Final Thoughts :

There’s so much more in life rather than just making friends and being a social person. While these connections might benefit you in terms of professional life and provide a sense of belonging and support, you need to filter out the people who’re also genuinely good for your soul. And that’s what an inner circle is all about.

It’s not easy to get all the types of people in life that we mentioned in this article. For example, another type of person you can only have if you’re lucky enough is someone who doesn’t become satisfied with the answer, “I’m okay”. These are the people who know when to give you space and when to not leave you alone no matter what you say.

Unfortunately, we often encounter fake people in ways which can be too tiring. However, make your heart open to new connections and wholeheartedly believe – “There Are more amazing people to meet in the way”

Finally, don’t just seek real connections but also offer. There’s nothing more amazing than turning out to be a person like this in someone’s life.

“You need the right people in your life, not the best people“

………………… ……………………….

That’s all for today’s article. Don’t forget to leave a comment about your thoughts regarding this post.

Question for you: Who Are The People In Your Life That You Keep In Your First Priority?

Let me know the answer in the comment below!

Finally, if you liked this article, then don’t forget to share it with others who can find it useful or interesting. too. Your one share will make my day!